I never know what I am going to find when my Facebook news feed pops
up. I love catching up with old and new friends but sometimes I am
tempted to delete my account altogether. Why, you ask?
Because some
people abuse their Facebook privileges by exposing every thought, meal,
conversation, and every ounce of their relationship drama.
At
times, I get confused and think I am watching ESPN as I am given the
facebook status play-by-play of break-ups, arguments, divorces, and
incidents of infidelity. It's the kind of stuff that makes me
sigh....very deeply.
For people going through those events, they
are looking for someone to vent to in their personal times of anger,
sadness, hurt, or shame. That is what a real friend is for. I'd like to
make an announcement, people: Facebook, is not your friend! It
is a tool that exposes all of your business to hundreds of people. It's
like having a skywriting plane, a bullhorn, a billboard, and a
television ad all in one. When your arguments are over and your breakups
are finished, your entire network still remembers how you embarrassed
your partner, exposed your secrets, and gave away intimate details about
things they never asked you about.
On Facebook you can put anything in a status message and you are guaranteed to get at least one
person to "like" your status or leave a comment in support of whatever
you say. In a way, Facebook lulls us into a false sense of believing
that everything we write is validated, proper, and appropriate. What you
don't see are the people who are deleting you as friends, hiding your
status updates, or talking about how inappropriate you are to share what
you did.
I often tell people that how a potential mate talks
about their ex should be one of the factors you look at when you are
deciding whether or not to pursue a relationship. If a person degrades
their ex, calls them all kinds of names, and blames them for everything
that ocurred in the relationship, consider that a red flag. You are next
in line for that kind of treatment. Facebook is no different. A person
who exposes their business to the online world will also do that to you.
With that being said, facebook is not the place for your relationship
drama. Buy a diary and use it.
Shalom!
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